I’ve always thought of this column (and my podcast) as a conversation I’m having with friends about our love and/or sex lives after we’d had a few drinks. (Or, these days, shared an edible.)
Author Archives: Dan Savage
Searching for answers
I get a lotta unsolicited dick pics in my line of work—not complaining, just saying—and half the dicks I see in any given week have pubes. So, there are plenty of naturally hairy guys out there for you to choose from.
Age-old problems
It’s important that you’re feeling aroused—not feeling dread—when your lover is on his way over.
Play the harmonica, pluck the banjo
Finding community means making kinky friends, not just matching with kinky sex partners.
Quickies with obvious answers
Sir, this is a Wendy’s. (Full disclosure: This isn’t a Wendy’s. This is a sex-advice column.)
Drinking games
Your kink is not my kink, CC, but your kink is okay, as the saying goes, and your kink is about the consumption of immoderate amounts of semen. But I would advise you, as I have advised many others, to be moderate about how often you’re immoderate.
You don’t need to “dip out” to get off
Think of the potential rewards! Instead of leaving your husband behind when you start fantasizing about men fucking men and women fucking women, you’ll get to take him along!
Take your time up there
The last exam I got from my primary care physician didn’t last long enough to feel very accurate and [I] encouraged my urologist to take as much time as he wanted up there. He did not.
Bi for spankings
Not bi for blowjobs, not bi for anal, not bi for JO or mutual masturbation. Just bi for spankings.
FinDoms and foreskin
“I really get off on sending money that we can spare to younger, hotter guys and being degraded for my pains. Thing is, almost all the guys doing FinDom are straight.”
Commitment issues
An economy-sized box of enemas, a colleague who won’t end his marriage, and a wife who doesn’t want to swing
Peanut butter question
Put the jar down, then get a divorce and a (human) lover.
Why shareabortionpill.info matters now more than ever
Plus, why you shouldn’t get your straight friend a shiny latex gimp suit
A past omission makes fantasizing tense
Words are cheap and “engaged” is just a word.