Author Archives: Dan Savage

Hey, Faggot: I am a 36-year-old male, approximately 30 pounds overweight. I have always battled with my weight and have learned to live with the ups and downs. However, no matter how much weight I lose or how often I work out I always have a big flabby chest–a source of discomfort and shame to […]

Hey, Faggot: Most of the sexual experiences I’ve had have been initiated by the woman. When I meet someone and I start to groove on them and we hang out and this and that, I have a hard time making a move. I just don’t know when to do it. I’ve had women tell me […]

Hey, Faggot: I am in some serious trouble here! I have a really wonderful girlfriend and I’m very much in love with her. We’re also best friends and get along great. The only problem is sex. I know, who doesn’t have problems with sex. But mine is a sad, sad case. She has a most […]

Hey, Faggot: My boyfriend hit me and I don’t know what to do about it. We’ve been together about three and a half years, and he never hit me before. This incident is so out of character, so unlike him, that I don’t know what to do. We were arguing, and it sort of spun […]

Hey, Faggot: Please tell me I’m not being a bitch about this. My boyfriend is almost 24 years old and he seems to have a fixation with his penis. He’s always touching it, playing with it, pulling it out of his pants, looking at it, and it seems as though every time he’s in some […]

Hey, Faggot: I’ve been using one of those shower anal douches for about a year now and I’ve always wondered if there are any long-term side effects I should be aware of. Is using the douche once or twice a week too often? Am I washing away good bacteria? How do the prostate and colon […]

Hey, Faggot: My girlfriend often gives me head, but she won’t let me return the favor. I’ve tried repeatedly to go down on her, but she always cringes and turns her vittles away from me. When I ask why, she just answers, “Why would any man want to put his mouth where I pee?” I […]

Hey, Faggot: I am a straight woman, 37, who has been friends with a man, 34, for four years. Our relationship has been platonic–we’ve never had any sexual contact other than making out–although we have expressed a strong attraction for one another. However, we decided to keep our relationship non-sexual in order to retain our […]

Hey faggot: I go to a clean, well-managed safe-sex club. In a crowded orgy scene, sometimes alien fingers gravitate to assholes, which can be delightful–but can I catch diseases from a finger? AIDS? Herpes? Other STDs? Disposable latex gloves are provided, but in the frenzy of passion they aren’t always used. How safe is finger […]