In the mid-90s, when I’d moved to a new city after grad school, I placed a personals ad the old-fashioned way: in an alternative paper. After a couple of dud dates, I ended up meeting someone I went on to have a long-term relationship with. He eventually ended up reconciling with his ex-wife, but all this time later we’re still friends.

Given this experience, I was open to trying online dating, so a younger colleague of mine got me started on OK Cupid. I can’t say it’s gone so well, though I have met a couple of guys who to all appearances are genuinely nice.