I’m a straight male foot fetishist and, like any other American male, I regularly google my fetish. Last night I ran across a Web site promoting foot-fetish parties in New York City: www.foot-worship-party.com. Have you heard of this event? Is it legit? Is it legal? For a guy with a foot fetish, it seems almost too good to be true–which is why I’m worried. On the other hand, it seems like a great time for someone like me. –Tucson Omits Erotic Services

“We’re definitely legit,” says Jason, the young entrepreneur who hosts the parties you read about, TOES. “We don’t offer sex or prostitution. It’s just about worshipping women’s feet. It’s an erotic party, but there’s no sex.”

Jason got started in the foot-fetish-party-hosting business four years ago and, like all the best kink entrepreneurs, he shares his clients’ kink. “I’m 26 now, and I’ve been into feet pretty much since I was 8 years old.”

Jason was working in marketing at a health club in Manhattan when he mustered up enough courage to attend his first foot-fetish party. “It was awful,” he recalls. “The women were not attractive, there were 100 guys to 20 girls, and the people who worked there were really unfriendly. My business mind kicked in and I thought, ‘What if I took this concept and did it right? A better ratio of guys to girls, hot girls with beautiful feet, friendly people?’ Boom, I had my first party, and ever since then I’ve been very successful.”

Entrance to Jason’s foot-worship parties is $150, but women can attend at no charge. “Any woman who wants to drop by and have men worship her feet is more than welcome,” he says. “But we ask women to send an e-mail first with face shot and clear pictures of the tops and bottoms of their feet.”

But why give it away for free, ladies? Attractive women who don’t mind having their feet kissed, licked, and massaged can make between $250 and $300 working one of Jason’s parties. And what should a woman expect when she walks into one of them? “She’s basically going to have men who are mostly submissive at her feet. These are men who like the idea of giving up their power and control and being at a woman’s feet, worshipping her feet, massaging her toes.” Because he’s not asking them to do typical sex-industry work, Jason says he’s able to hire women who wouldn’t normally do erotic work: “We get real models and actresses along with good-looking professional women and college students.”

I recently posted an Internet ad seeking to purchase used panties from women. I got e-mails from women who were interested, but I also got a lot of hurtful e-mail from people telling me I’m sick and perverted. Surely sniffing used panties while masturbating isn’t that bad, is it? What harm am I inflicting upon anyone or anything? –Violated Panty Lover

Maybe you should post an Internet ad seeking some balls, VPL. When people write in to tell you that you’re sick and twisted, you don’t lock yourself in the bathroom and have a good cry. You blast back an e-mail that says, “You’re damn right I’m sick and perverted–and I’m lovin’ every fucking minute of it!”

What do you think of new pronouns for transgender people such as “zim” and “hir”? A transgender friend has asked that we start referring to zim by such pronouns. I don’t want to hurt hir feelings, but I question the efficacy of the strategy. Aren’t we supposed to be moving toward eliminating gender from pronouns? –Ambivalent Straight Supportive

I think they’re ztupid.

My straight boyfriend has a gay “slave.” My guy is 35, handsome, tall, muscular–the total alpha-male type. His “slave” is a skinny twentysomething gay kid who lives in his building. This kid does whatever my boyfriend orders him to: clean his apartment, do his laundry, do his dishes. I think it’s sick and I want it to stop. My boyfriend loves the free cleaning service and wants me to get over it. There’s nothing sexual about their arrangement, so my boyfriend doesn’t see why it bothers me. I think he’s exploiting a very messed-up kid. What do you think? –The Master’s Girlfriend

Drop the bullshit compassion, TMG. Your boyfriend isn’t exploiting a “messed-up kid.” He’s delighting a grown man who’s turned on by slaving away for an alpha-male type. You want it to stop because you don’t want to share your boyfriend–not even his dirty dishes–with anyone else. (And the setup is sexual. Somebody is beating off about those dishes. Hopefully not over them, but definitely about them.) Perhaps you’ll feel differently if your boyfriend orders his slave to clean your apartment too.

In a recent column you missed an excellent opportunity to let your readers know about HPV and its association with anal cancer. It’s 35 times more common in the gay male population, and it isn’t being screened for very well. In fact, anal cancer is now more common in gay men than cervical cancer is in women. If anal cancer is caught/diagnosed early, mortality rates are much lower. Researchers in the Bay Area are looking at doing anal Pap smears among the gay male population. Please let your readers know! –Stanford Med Student

Now they know, SMS.

Please tell the gay guy who didn’t know how to tell his sex partner he’d been infected with gonorrhea that he can also send him an anonymous e-card with all the necessary information from the following Web site: www.inspot.org. –Been There Done That

Inspot was developed by Internet Sexuality Information Services, Inc., a nonprofit organization “dedicated to developing and using Internet technology to prevent disease transmission.” You go to the Web site, select an e-card, click on an STD, and write a few lines of text. Then you enter the e-mail addresses of the sex partners you would like to notify. Cards can be sent anonymously, or you can include a return e-mail address. (It doesn’t even have to be your own!) I gave the site a whirl and sent anonymous notices to all my coworkers, letting them know that they had been exposed to shigella, molluscum, and nongonococcal urethritis. Based on the gasps and shrieks I heard coming from other cubicles all afternoon, BTDT, I’d say the service works.