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Power tripping on Grindr

by Dan Savage September 21, 2021September 21, 2021

Is it homophobic for a straight man to tease a thicc bottom boy with dick pics?

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My massage therapist has the hots for me

by Dan Savage September 15, 2021September 15, 2021

On ethical violations and two years of practicing withholding semen

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Don’t feel bad about the dick you eat at work

by Dan Savage September 10, 2021September 10, 2021

Q: I’m a gay man. After a decade together and five years of marriage, my husband informed me he wasn’t really interested in sex anymore. That was a year ago and we haven’t had sex since. He told me I should leave him, if regular sex was “really that important” to me, but if I […]

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Counseled culture is a real thing

by Dan Savage September 2, 2021September 2, 2021

Q: Hello! I am a heterosexual man! My wife came out as a lesbian after 30 years of marriage. We have children together and we love each other. Therefore, we’ve decided not to divorce. We visited some therapists and they all coerced us to divorce, even though we really do not want that. We believe […]

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Full (micropenis) disclosure

by Dan Savage August 30, 2021August 30, 2021

Q: I’m a woman who recently went out on a third date with a man. I invited him back to my place and we started making out, which led to him going down on me. Moments later he took off his pants and to my surprise he had a micropenis. I was shocked and turned […]

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Game over for your husband’s kinks

by Dan Savage August 19, 2021August 19, 2021

Q: Is it ever ok to stop being GGG? I’ve been with my husband for 26 years. Shortly after we got together, my husband disclosed a major kink: MFM threesomes. I was young and a virgin and up for anything then, but we didn’t start hooking up with other men until around year six of our relationship. Over […]

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How to avoid your second-cousin ex at the family reunion

by Dan Savage August 13, 2021August 19, 2021

Q: I fell in love with my second cousin about four years ago at a family reunion. (I hadn’t laid eyes on him since I was a kid!) I was 15 when we met, he was two years older, and we were in a long-distance relationship for three years. We ended things a year ago […]