QI’m a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time—but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I really have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (like, stop if I’m too close and eat her out to give me some time to relax, etc), but it’s still a pain in the ass. I have a theory about this: I’m not circumcised. I know that circumcised cocks are more desensitized, as they tend to rub on everything all the time. Could my problem be related to the fact that for the first 20 years of my life, the head of my cock had never been in direct contact with anything? And if not, are there tricks that exist to help me with this problem? —Unexposed Nub Could Upset Timing
AYou’re already doing everything premature ejaculators are urged to do, UNCUT: You’re paying close attention to your arousal levels, you’re being careful not to rush past the point of no return (or past the point of “orgasmic inevitability”), you’re taking fuck breaks as needed and eating a little pussy (not recommended for gay premature ejaculators). Those are the “tricks that exist” to help guys like you, and it sounds like you’ve mastered them. And while the heads of circumcised cocks tend to be less sensitive, UNCUT, studies of men circumcised in adulthood have found no link between circumcision and premature ejaculation. Uncut guys are no more likely to have problems with premature ejaculation, and cut guys are no less likely.
QI’m a straight, vanilla 29-year-old woman, happily married to a kinky bi guy for six years, together for 13. He’s free to sleep with other men, and I consider myself GGG—turning him on turns me on. You can do the math: I married my high school sweetheart. My husband has a cuckold fetish, and we role-play all the time. I would really love to make this fantasy a reality! My question is: How/where the fuck do I find someone? I don’t want to pick up some random, since I want to be as safe as possible, and I haven’t dated since I was 16. I feel completely lost. I just want to cuckold my husband! Why can’t there be an app for that? —Nonexperienced Wife Begs You
AYou’re in luck: There is an app for married people who want to cheat on their partners—with or without their partners’ permission—and I’m pretty sure you’re already familiar with this particular app, NEWBY, as it’s been around for a while. It’s called “the Internet.” This app can direct you to websites for cheaters (Ashley Madison), websites for kinksters (FetLife), and regular dating websites where married people in open relationships are free to advertise for new partners (OkCupid).
QI’m 62 years old, fit, handsome, and intelligent. I’m also as horny as a 17-year-old. My committed boyfriend/partner/husband-to-be of ten years is 41. I met him at a men’s club when he was wearing nothing but a towel, and we had great sex. We haven’t had sex since that first date. I have loved this man from that moment in the club. He is beautiful: Asian with a bit of Spanish, perfectly proportioned, athletic, smart, ambitious, creative, playful—my little brown prince. He has the most beautiful ass I have ever seen. He is from a culture that is very private and puts on a happy face—always. It’s hard for me to get inside and crack that stubborn nut. I would love nothing more than to make love to him. Some things are impossible to put into words, and lovemaking expresses so much. —Nine Outta Ten
AA gay dude who fucks you once and refuses to fuck ever again isn’t that into fucking, isn’t that into you, or isn’t turned on by men he actually knows. Some gay men are aroused only by anonymous sex—you know, the kind of sex you two had on your first “date.” Some gay men overcome that sexual handicap, others don’t. If your “little brown prince” (erm) hasn’t managed to overcome it ten years into this relationship, NOT, I doubt he ever will.
QI have a couple of relatively close friends who prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns, which they define to be “they/them/their.” Now, I wouldn’t have a problem with this, and I know people will often use “they/them/their” in regular speech, but it really makes speaking English awkward; “they/them/their” are all plural, while “he/him/she/her” are singular. So for instance: “My friend Chris is going to the mall. I hope they has a good time.” I’m OK with the idea of people being gender-neutral, but I also think following the rules of grammar is important. —Got Good Grammar
A “They” can be used as a singular pronoun—Shakespeare did it—but if it makes you crazy, GGG, there’s a simple solution to your dilemma: “My friend Chris, who prefers gender-neutral pronouns, is going to the mall. I sure hope Chris has a good time.”
QI agree with your advice to SNAP, the poor guy whose wife shames him for watching porn, but there’s just one little thing. I’m a porn-positive woman in my 30s. But when I was still married, my husband once got out of bed while having sex with me to watch porn. He felt himself flagging, so he switched on his computer and watched porn until he got it up again. This was not one of the countless reasons I dumped the motherfucker, but I have to say that it amounted to taking a bullhorn and yelling: “You’re not sexy enough! I’d rather be sleeping with one of these porn actresses!” Is it unreasonable to ask that my partner wait with the porn until he’s done with me? —Pissed-Off Romance Ninja
AYour ex-husband’s problem wasn’t porn. It was insensitivity. And cluelessness. And selfishness. But for the record: It is not unreasonable to ask your partner to save the porn for “alone time,” PORN, and there’s no excuse for cruelty and inconsideration—about porn or anything else. But some couples do manage to incorporate porn into their “together time,” as the next letter demonstrates . . .
QIt’s not always the wife who dislikes porn. I’m a straight married guy, and I don’t like porn. I’m rare, I know, but I exist. My wife started watching it about ten years and two kids into our marriage in order to rev up her libido. But porn isn’t a source of conflict for us. She watches porn alone, or she very sweetly asks me to go down on her while she watches porn on her tablet. Either I get myself off with my hand while getting my wife off with my tongue (usually what happens), or she gets so horny that she wants to be fucked (less frequent, always nice). We have good regular sex too. —Routine and Regular Erotica
AThanks for sharing, RARE.
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