Dan offers advice for losing it in middle age, handling potentially destructive secrets, and more.
Tag: friends with benefits
Sixty-two and wondering what to settle for sexually after a new partner turns out to prefer his own hand
Is it so wrong to want to be desired? Plus: yes, women can be cuckolds, and more
‘Why is this woman giving me blow jobs?’ and more from the mailbag
Dan Savage weighs in on a friend with benefits giving them without getting them, and more.
How to get laid without freaking out
Advice for a victim of sexual abuse and rape. Plus: Help, I snooped and discovered what I most feared!
When ‘slaves’ rebel
Is “I’m overwhelmed” the new “It’s not me, it’s you”? Plus: bragging rights, a bad night for BDSM, and more
What to do when the friend with benefits sleeps with the BFF
Roommate + longtime drunken lay = trouble. Plus: What does it mean when you find a pair of tit clamps in a dresser?
Do I qualify as asexual?
Dan Savage advises a woman who wonders whether she’s asexual, and more
The Savage guide to taking a man’s virginity
Dan Savage’s advice on taking the virginity of a 25-year-old Muslim virgin, coping with a BDSM master who thinks he owns you, and more
Just make the call
Dan on being an unwilling receptionist for a trans sex worker, showing some patience before jumping into anal sex, and retraining a dick.
Dan on navigating the precarious friends-with-benefits boundaries, getting off without having to get on top, and compromising with your wife about your lingerie fetish.
Stylish things to do
Clever Alice returns, a party to benefit fashion students, and more
This Week’s Movie Action
This week’s movie action: the Music Box’s Chicago French Film Festival and Summer Music Film Festival, Terri, and more
Savage Love: February 10, 2011
A serial cheater looks for help; is it cool to keep hooking up with my ex?