During a trial over a grisly murder, prosecutors and journalists alike traded in homophobic, sex-negative tropes that some say do a disservice to the victim and the BDSM community.
Tag: kink
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LA&M’s dirty 30
A reflection on the museum’s storied past and more inclusive future
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Why get married?
On commitment, ultimatums, and masturbating into your wife’s used panties
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Don’t freak out because he wants to paint your toenails
He’s not asking you to be turned into a mummy or used as a urinal.
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This isn’t some underground kink thing
Apple-polishing, trouble swallowing, and a soft return to “normal.”
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I pegged my boyfriend and now he wants to be ‘the girl’
Kinky sex can be wonderful, but it won’t fix your relationship.
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‘Restrain’ appears static, but the works (and the viewers) dance
Brendan Fernandes’s bronze sculptures congeal pain and pleasure.
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Super Tasty brings sex education to Constellation
Learning about your bits just got a little bit more fun.
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‘Am I just bipolar and kinky? Are the two related somehow?’
Advice on avoiding a hypersexual state. Plus: Embracing hyperfeminine presentation, and more.
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‘I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me’
Tips for getting into bondage without being a menace or a creep. Plus: Dan issues the fastest DTMFA ever!
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How to get your groove back after giving birth
A pelvic floor physical therapist comes to the rescue. Plus: Dan gives advice to a straight woman in love with a gay man.
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She’s bi herself. Why is she so threatened by her boyfriend’s bisexuality?
Dan calls on experts to address insecurity and biphobia. Plus: what to do if kink’s not for you
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When SPH invites DTMFA . . .
Dan Savage advises a man whose partner wants to “humiliate” him about his “small pee-pee, and more.”
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The most dangerous form of breath play
A guide to choking: Don’t. Plus: the case of the Underpants Pervert, and more
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Of medical fetishes and the ‘degradation pool’
Dan Savage advises a doc in training who has a thing for enemas, and more.