During a trial over a grisly murder, prosecutors and journalists alike traded in homophobic, sex-negative tropes that some say do a disservice to the victim and the BDSM community.
Tag: kink
LA&M’s dirty 30
A reflection on the museum’s storied past and more inclusive future
Why get married?
On commitment, ultimatums, and masturbating into your wife’s used panties
Don’t freak out because he wants to paint your toenails
He’s not asking you to be turned into a mummy or used as a urinal.
This isn’t some underground kink thing
Apple-polishing, trouble swallowing, and a soft return to “normal.”
I pegged my boyfriend and now he wants to be ‘the girl’
Kinky sex can be wonderful, but it won’t fix your relationship.
‘Restrain’ appears static, but the works (and the viewers) dance
Brendan Fernandes’s bronze sculptures congeal pain and pleasure.
Super Tasty brings sex education to Constellation
Learning about your bits just got a little bit more fun.
‘Am I just bipolar and kinky? Are the two related somehow?’
Advice on avoiding a hypersexual state. Plus: Embracing hyperfeminine presentation, and more.
‘I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me’
Tips for getting into bondage without being a menace or a creep. Plus: Dan issues the fastest DTMFA ever!
How to get your groove back after giving birth
A pelvic floor physical therapist comes to the rescue. Plus: Dan gives advice to a straight woman in love with a gay man.
She’s bi herself. Why is she so threatened by her boyfriend’s bisexuality?
Dan calls on experts to address insecurity and biphobia. Plus: what to do if kink’s not for you
When SPH invites DTMFA . . .
Dan Savage advises a man whose partner wants to “humiliate” him about his “small pee-pee, and more.”
The most dangerous form of breath play
A guide to choking: Don’t. Plus: the case of the Underpants Pervert, and more
Of medical fetishes and the ‘degradation pool’
Dan Savage advises a doc in training who has a thing for enemas, and more.